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Network, Learn and Chase the Dream with Sarai Angelle

Network, Learn and Chase the Dream with Sarai Angelle

Be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire. 

 

The power of meeting the right people is something Sarai has realized in her pursuit of learning from the best in the barrel racing industry. Today, we sat down to go over the reasons you should put yourself out there, ask for help in a way that shows your determination and fearless attitude towards being a better trainer and rider. 

Internships are something we both have in common and we touched on how and why they help! For the better or for worse, we learn through those experiences and we have a lot to share!

Listen now and let me know in the review section what your thoughts are! 

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I’m Shelby Olyschlager. This is we can hustle and we are barrel racers. Join us on our journey to personal growth for us and our horses together, we can hustle. Welcome everybody to another episode of the weekend hustle podcast. Today, I have my super exciting guests here as Sarah is here with us, AKA countryole, which kind of funny that we only really met on Instagram. And we’ve talked a bunch of times and kind of got to know each other a little bit. And that’s why I was really excited to have you on because you’re pretty much kind of living part of my dream right now.

So if you’d like, please give us an introduction and tell us what you’re doing and just all the good details. Totally. So, hi guys, my name’s Sarah Angelle. I am from Texas down here in the central Texas area. And for most of my life, I have been a barrel racer, I guess you’d say. And I’ve spent probably the last five years or so really working towards being able to do it as a career. Um, so that’s kind of where I’m at right now. So, you’ve been working along and doing a lot of internships. Can you tell us a bit about that? Like just the experience you’ve had in like every place you’ve been to, cause you said been doing it for about five years. So how as that whole experience has that been for you? So first of all, like interning is such a rewarding and humbling thing.

You, a lot of times when I get asked, what can I do to be better? Or what can I do to learn more? My first response is to tell them, go ride with someone, you know, go find someone who knows more than you, whether that’s barrel horse trainer or cold starter or raining calibers guy, anybody who has more knowledge than you do, we’ll be able to teach you a phenomenal amount about riding horses. So, you know, I tried to practice what I was preaching essentially in college. My very first internship was with Brandon and Bo Kellogg and Bo and Randa they’re actually origin m Florida and Bo had one quite a bit at the futurity stuff. I spent about a year and a half with them and learned a lot. And after I got done with school, I came home. And for a while, you know, I tried to do the real job thing.

Like a lot of us have to do, you know, adult responsibilities. Um, and I kept going back to the horses and I finally asked myself, you know, what do you need to do to make this a reality and not just something you do on the weekends. And I took a leap of faith and decided that I was going to go work for joy Wargo. I had attended one of her clinics in South Texas and had found out she was looking for work and I took a leap of faith because at the time I had a great job with the state. I wasn’t thinking about leaving, but I asked her “can I apply?” And she’s like, yeah, send me your resume. So that was a really unique experience. I drove up there to interview with her following weekend and her and her husband hired me on the spot.

So it was really, really cool. I spent a year and a half there. And now I’m back here in the central Texas area writing for Janet Staton, who has been a mentor of mine for years. She’s actually the reason I probably got the job with joy because she recommended me. And it’s kind of been an interesting time right now because we’ve had some unusual circumstances pop up and Janet injured herself at one of our races and I’ve had to jump on a couple for her. So that’s been pretty exciting and rewarding to do. Um, but yeah, like all this, all this time, I’ve been trying to work to be better and ride under these trainers that know more than I do and seek knowledge because I really think that’s the only way you can get.

Absolutely. I love that so much. And you said a few things that I’ve told myself and I just like, exactly, like just preach it out. Is that like I read a quote once where it kind of said, you know, you don’t ask someone for directions that has never been where you want to go. And interning is such a good outlet to get completely involved in that world in work, alongside and with people that are getting where you want to go. And it’s like, you know, your goals and for you, it’s like, you really want to make it your thing. Like you want to not work and you want riding and training horses to be your goal. So it’s like, you’re putting yourself on the right path to get there. And it’s just like, it’s so obviously necessary. But you know, like I’ve already found some people that are like, Oh, cause I did an intern for one summer and it was such a amazing experience.

And I was so sad to be done because it was like going back to reality. And then if I want to go again, I have to like remake that plan for myself. Like, you know, like quit the job, get that one way ticket and just go do it. And people are like, Oh, I’m so jealous. I wish I could do that. Like, how are you able to do that? And I’m like, I just made it happen. Like it’s not easy. And like you said, like it was a tough decision I’m sure. But looking back, I’m sure. In retrospect, like you’re so glad like you have, and even right now, like, so you went to Fort Smith. I was like so excited for you. Cause you were saying like that Janet hurt herself and you dumped ride some of her horses. So can you tell us a bit about that experience? Definitely. Um,

I will say just like you said, you know, people ask you, you know, how do you do it? How do you go off and do all that to just to capitalize on that too real quick. I have to add that sometimes the internship deals are, they’re hard. They’re hard on you physically. They’re hard on you emotionally. Um, but it helps a lot when you have great people to work for. And I was really fortunate, like all the time I got to spend with Brandon and Bo and all the time I got to spend a like joy and her husband Trent, cause they treated me so well. Um, and all the time I’m getting to spend now with Janet and her husband, Doug stay in. So I just want to make sure I mentioned, make sure that you are working for good people and you deserve to be treated with respect.

And don’t forget that if you’re out there looking for something, but back to your question about Fort Smith. Um, so I guess I’ll start in Guthrie at the lady at the stallion stakes, it was round two of the futurity there and Janet was on her second to last horse. I think we had, we had four entered that one and she ran into the first barrel and I, the horses, she did it on as the one that I’ve been doing good on for the last couple of weeks. His name is topper. He’s like 16 to probably weighs 1300 pounds.

I think he just set really hard to turn. And she had already had some, a strain going on with her groin and he just set to turn and it got it. The rest of the way he, like she said, it was all she could do to hang on the rest of their end. And when she didn’t come outside to meet me was their last horse. I knew something was wrong. I got inside and she couldn’t walk. So that was a great experience because in that moment, like I didn’t have a hat or, or anything to get on the next mayor. So Ryan Budokon, who literally was the horse before our number one horse Dessie shoes, number one, that day Ryan runs her horse and the two spot and then gets off and gets on dusty and run through for Dan it and made a beautiful run. Like it was flawless, really nice mayor. But, um, so that’s kinda where it started as we were like, well, what do we do?

Um, I was, so I was supposed to go home after Guthrie. I was supposed to go home and ride Colts and hit your ad back down to Texas with an owner of ours. Well, since Janet couldn’t walk very well and probably wouldn’t be able to set up the stalls or do anything like that by herself, we decided I probably needed this day. And, um, as we were trying to figure out what to do, she was talking about, you know, who she thought would be able to ride. The three we were taking to Fort Smith. Um, she’s got famous Jaguar who is really talented Colt, but he’s really fast. And it’s hard to get his timing on. We asked for an underground him and we had the shiny little red Corvette. Justin Anjell wrote him for it. And finally, the last one she’s like, well, Sarah, I think I’m just going to let you ride topper. Cause I don’t know anybody else to put on him.

Like your use of the horse. Yeah. Taking him through the barrels. I’m not really fast or anything. Um, but it was exciting. You know, I think a lot of us could say that in that situation, it would be super exciting to get asked to jump ride, but it was, it was, I was nervous because the great thing about Janet is she like had no qualms about it. She’s like, Oh, you’re going to do fine. I have complete faith in you that made it hard to be real nervous for someone to give you that courage to do well. But I was, you know, I was anticipating so exciting for Smith.

He was, and he’s a green coat. He’s a Colt that had, um, kissing spine surgery a little around the same time last year as right now. So he hadn’t been entered until March. So he’d only maybe made like seven competitive runs. And we were just hoping, you know, for the best. And when he ran, I think his first run was like a high, 17 to three horses out of making the bast 40 back to the finals. And we couldn’t have been prouder of him. And I was just glad I didn’t fall off. Oh, come on. Well, that’s actually kind of the nice thing is he said, you know, he’s only had like seven or so competitive runs. So I feel like the, just you and your expectations are going to be a bit lower because it’s like, you don’t know what to expect. Like you hope for the best. And obviously Janet had complete faith in you that you’re going to do your best and really showcase her horse. Well, and it’s just nice though. Cause yeah, like you didn’t fall off. So mission accomplished, like everything else is like a cherry on top. Like you didn’t really well considering everything that was going on. So it must have been such a cool experience. And it really wasn’t, you know, like, um, Janet, she made me cry like that day. Cause I’m an emotional person.

I walked him back to the stall after that first draft. And I was so proud of him. She came up from the stands in her golf cart. She wasnt walking very well, walked over to the, and she’s like, well, she’s like, you did a great job. And I was like, thank you. And she’s like, I hope that everyone has somebody in there that has that much faith in them. I truly believe that that encouragement and that faith that she has in me really has upped my mental game, ask a couple weeks, given me, you know, I’m not so dumb as to be completely invincible, but it’s giving me that feeling of invincibility, worried about anyone else. Because as long as Janet is happy and she knows I can do my job, that’s really all I care about. Exactly. But he came back in the constellation a time, a 17, Oh, I can’t remember exactly what it was, but it would have qualified in the first day we were out of it for the constellation round.

Cause that round is tough, but I couldn’t have been happier with him. It was such a unique, exciting, humbling experience. And you know, the biggest, I think the biggest win of the whole weekend was one just making Janet proud and to like all of the wonderful compliments I received from people who I’ve looked up to since I was a kid, that was pretty amazing. That is awesome. I’m so happy to hear that. And even like you said, like, you didn’t make it, but you improved and you can’t even be happier despite like, you know, the results might’ve not been like in the top or whatever, but still like your results were amazing, like all at the end of the day. And that’s such a cool experience that I’m glad, like you got to experience that I was a once in a lifetime kind of deal, but that’s how it’s kind of interesting.

Like just how the stars all aligned for that for you. Like if it sucks, but like if she didn’t hurt herself, all that wouldn’t have happened. Right. It’s like such a cool, unique like experience. So that actually brings me to something else. Like just you working in getting compliments and talking to people that you aspire to be like that is to me is such a big key to success is just, you know, obviously having mentors that are where you want to go and being connected with them and also just surrounding yourself with that level of competition, is it makes a huge difference on how you perform. And like when I was in the States going to the fizz bomb, it’s kind of interesting. It was a similar setup where the girl that was supposed to ride her Derby horse got hurt. And so I ran them all weekend and it was so cool.

We did, we placed like, I think 13th and the average, and it was just an insane experience because you’re competing against those people. And for me just being in Ontario, I’ve never competed against that level of competition, especially charity and Derby like that. So that in itself for me was just incredible to, you know, like have your standards so high because you’re competing against the best. So do you think that’s changed a lot for your writing? Just kind of comparing yourself to the best and knowing like it’s possible, you know, it’s funny. I think if you really break it down, you can’t so much compare yourself to the other trainers. Cause we all do it different that might have similar styles, but at the end of the day, we’re all unique. Just like the wishes are for sure. Yes. That being said, I think in anything you do in life, but especially like the futurity deal, if you’re not surrounded by peers who are also striving to improve their craft, striving to make better horses, to be better horseman, you know, to win more.

I think that you’re probably limiting yourself. I know for there was a time in my life when I was not as competitive when I was not really doing the horse deal and it was after my good mentor of mine passed away and I didn’t have anything, I got distanced myself and it definitely affected me and affected my ability as a competitor. And I would say even just because I loved it so much and I was so far away from it, it affected me just in general, you know, my level of happiness or what I love to do. So yes, like in all aspects, whether it’s, um, your competitiveness, your mental game, your actual writing ability. I think the more you can study the people who are better than you study with the winners, you’re doing ask some questions, talk with them, you know, sit with the winners.

Like people say, you’re definitely going to exponentially increase your ability to do well. Not for the long run. Totally. Yeah. Choosing your tribe and just having that group of people that are on the same mission, right? Like you’re on the same path, the same goal. And you’re like each other’s cheerleaders to some degree. And I liked that a lot. The one thing you said is just like, I’m like first just the learning aspect is like, it’s never ending. And also what you said is just the level of happiness. When your horse passed, then you’re just were like, unsure about what you’re doing. I feel that so much. And I think when you’re unhappy like that, or you just feel Discontentment because it’s life trying to nudge you in a direction, like it’s the discomfort that we’re able to move and train our lives. And like, I feel that sometimes, and obviously you felt that and you made a change because you’re like, you know, I’m not content with where I’m at.

And like, I’m sure if you asked yourself the same question back then, as you asked now about it, you’d have totally different answers because like you’re actually doing what you want giving it and going for it. I went back, even had a couple, like couple of years ago before I really started getting serious about studying under other people. I would have told you that there there’s no way I can’t make a living training horses. There’s no way I’m hoping I will be able to pay my bills at some point. I don’t expect to get rich by it by any means, but I don’t think that’s why any of us do it. Exactly. It’s not about the money. It’s about the horses and the awesome people that they bring into our lives. And that’s really, that’s really the biggest thing. I think if you think about it, that’s what I love.

Like, yeah. Like what you said about the comparing. I meant more like the state of like, like what’s possible for us. Like we see someone that we’re striving to be like, and we know they’re human, we’re human. If we really put our effort in, like, it is possible to do that. And for you, it is possible to do it. Like you don’t know when it’s exactly going to happen, but like you said, it’s like, we’re not there to make millions because it’s unrealistic. But like you said, like it’s the love and the passion and that’s where I think chorus people totally have it right. Is because they’re doing it. Not for the money they’re doing it to live the life that they actually want to. Then I just think that’s like a beautiful thing that people they’re okay with, that this is their mission. And it doesn’t matter.

The other thing too, like you mentioned, like the security girls and like watching them and, and aspiring to be like them, I’d really like to point out to, especially like for any like younger listeners, like all these young girls out there, these young girl racers and know, we all know that there’s always some kind of pettiness or drama going on. Typically it’s unavoidable. But the futurity girls, like when Janet got hurt this past week, so many people stepped up for us and helped. So many people stepped in and were like, what can I do for you? There was never any, you know, there was never any attitude or pettiness or anything like that, that sometimes today, unfortunately. And I think that not only are they excellent trainers and the horsemen on the back of scores, but a lot of them are excellent role models and just upstanding people with good hearts and they’re humble and they want to see each other when exactly that’s so important.

That’s what I was going to say. It’s like, they’re not thinking that the other person’s a com like their competition. It’s not like, Oh good. Like she hurt herself now. She’s not there. Like, that’s just so negative where it’s like, you, like there, they’re like on the same team to some degree. And that’s kind of one thing I thought about, it’s like, we’re all barrel racers. We all obviously love horses and love the sport and we’re here together. So it’s like, how can you be so negative towards someone that is literally in the same court as you? You know what I mean? Like it’s like, we’re all the same mission. So yeah. You and all your competition, like we’re all here. Like let’s have fun with our horses. Let’s enjoy it. And yeah, you do see the negative or the more sour people, but it’s like, no, one’s got time for that.

And I love that about the future. Do people, like you said, like they’re just stepping in to help each other, help each other get up. It’s important. Definitely. The whole, like choosing the people you’re around. And the one thing you said you do a lot is just the attending clinics and trying to extend your network. And like you, like, you got a job from joy because you went to a clinic, which I love that. Like, I just am like, I’m networker. Like if you network yourself and you just put yourself out there, like you opened so many opportunities that you have no idea even available or possible. So tell us a bit about like, just your experience going to some clinics that are completely irrelevant or like not barrel related, like you’re into like the horsemanship stuff. So how has that been in improving your writing?

Um, so two of my most favorite lines that I’ve been to probably recently, um, a couple of months ago, I got to go to fill how many horsemanship clinic that was a two day event. And that was awesome. Mainly because with bill, we were starting at square one with the building blocks that are all a part of the worst that we, most of us are probably used to riding after they’ve been put together. Right? So we took apart all those blocks and we said, this is what this one’s for. This is what this block does. This is how you manipulate this one to do this. And I won’t lie initially. Some of it I didn’t understand. And I think that’s because I had not broken it down to its simplest form. He would, you know, like we did a lot of them like yielding the hip.

And at the time, the very first day, I’m like, why are we doing this? I don’t want to disengage my horses. Why are you telling me to kick my hip? But then we applied it and emotion and my teaching to disengage, it’s it. You can teach it to move forward and carry itself up underneath itself at the same time, for sure. So it might not have been what I wanted to accomplish, but it was something I needed to learn to do in order to get to that last point. So I had a lot of experiences like that at Phil’s clinic and he was phenomenal. So I definitely encourage anybody to attend. One of those. I also really enjoyed when I was working with joy, her and transcend me to a Ron rolls clinic. Yeah. He was fantastic. Ron is really great. Um, because he breaks down the mechanics for almost like anyone to be able to understand.

And that’s a skill, we simplify it so much. Yes, definitely. Um, but, but really the takeaway from all of those horsemanship clinics is that half of the barrel races, like before you even start going through the pattern, and there’s a lot of stuff that those horses need to know about being broken their body and respecting your hands and your legs, and you knowing how to ask them with those things that they need to be able to do before you go to the pattern. Um, and I think that’s probably one of the biggest pieces of advice I’d give anybody is just make sure that your horse really, really knows his stuff and you know how to ask it. So where are you going to the pattern? How you’re influencing your horse. I wrote that down after watching a few of my, maybe not so good run.

And I’m like, thinking like, how could I change what happened? And I was just thinking like, how am I literally my body, what I’m doing when I’m running? Like, how am I influencing my horse? And the one thing as well as just how much our horses, our teachers, if we let it happen, like how much we actually can learn just from like a lot of, I think a lot of people start from maybe more trial and error approach and they take a few clinics and then they experiment to make it work for you because you can watch those people. And like you said earlier, everyone has their own style and it needs to make sense to them, but it needs to work for them in order. Like, and I think Ashley Shaffer said something. I read an article where she just said, basically you might follow a style, but you’re going to go back to your roots.

Like basically, meaning like no matter what you try, or if you watch and learn from someone you’re eventually going to fall back to you, how it works for you. So it is a lot of just, she has her horse riding as much as you can in different horses to learn what you, what works for you and just knowing like your own body and how it’s really changing your horse. And that’s the one thing, like, I think you said a bit before is just like learning from your horses and just, you know, like how important that is to really be listening. So is there anything you’ve kind of say about that? Definitely. You know, you talking about like the body control thing, it really is so important. And I did not realize just how important until I started working for joy. So those first couple of weeks I rode with her, I wanted to cry because I couldn’t grasp what she was trying to tell me to do and get my legs, like get my mom half and my top half to run at the same time to do the things I needed to do to be mechanically correct on the back of the words.

So that was a learning curve for me, but it was so important because it’s truly, it really has stepped up my feel of the animals when you’re sitting on them and being able to get your timing when you’re on their backs, especially, you know, at high rates of speed, that stuff is so important. Um, and I think the only way you can really teach yourself  to consistently spend hours in the saddle every day. And I know it’s hard for some girls, cause all of us to have access of 15 head a work. It was dried every day, but you joy always to ride your horse with intention every day. and soon as you step into the saddle, you need to have a game plan and ride with intention. We’d be aware of your body and the reactions you get. When you ask for something when you lay a leg, do they, or do they not move when you pick up a rein, do they pull on you or do they respect you and give you some kind of response? All those things are so important. And I think we can definitely all spend time, you know, being more mindful every time we get in a saddle or what exactly it is we ask for with our bodies because sometimes it’s as simple as a little bitty shift in your hips that will get a reaction out of one. You can learn those horses inside and out like that and what works for them, um, and be consistent with your writing. They will consistently improve and they will consistently perform in the arena.

Definitely. That’s so amazing. It’s so true. And so important that like you said, like all people just don’t even think of like a slight hip change or anything like that is going to make a difference and they don’t even feel themselves to it. So it’s like, if you don’t actually feel yourself, make that adjustment, how are you going to be consistent? And just the writing with intent is like mind blowing and so important. Like when you actually do that. And actually think when I put my foot in a stirrup, what are we going to do? And feeling yourself, yeah. Move your horse. Right. And it, yeah, like it takes a really long time, but just even with the whole like networking thing, I bet people, if they wanted 15 horses to ride or like just to get help it’s if you reached out to someone local and it’s like, they have lots of horses or they have training horses or whatever, be like, I’ll help you for a day. Like you don’t have to intern in relocate for life or for a year or half year. Like literally if they’re close, ask them and be like, I don’t mind coming your stalls, whatever.

And I’d like to ride a few horses and ride with you. And I’m sure people, if they know you’re willing and wanting to learn, I don’t think people have any problem helping, you know what I mean? I had a lot of people ask me like, Oh, like, how did you get that? Or what should I do? And maybe sacrificing some things you have now to go learn more so you can do better later, but people hold themselves back. Because the biggest first thing you can do is just walk up to someone and introduce yourself and say hi, I really would love to come ride with you. I’d really love to spend a day learning. I’ll come clean, your stalls, I’ll come groom your horses. I’ll do whatever you want me to do. If you’ll ride with me for an hour, it’s just like that. And you would be surprised how many of these girls, especially the futurity girls, that’d be like, yeah, come on.

They’re so barrier. Like, they’d be happy to have someone come out to their place. And like, yeah, people are scared of it. But honestly I think those girls really look at it as almost a privilege and an honor that people want to work with them and learn from them. It’s not intimidating. Like it is kind of intimidating, but I think it is mostly in your head of you’re putting those people on such a pedestal where it’s like a person, like a person, like, you know, if you just be yourself, be eager and obviously you are eager. If you’re going to take that step and it’s not going to go unnoticed. Exactly. I’ve told people a lot. Like you, you just have to go ask for one and consistently show up for them and yourself. Like whoever it is that you’re willing to go ride with, you know, make that relationship.

Now you want to go ride with Jolene Montgomery. Maybe she doesn’t need an intern right now. You should still reach out and make that connection example, ride with joy, reach out and make that connection, you know, show them that true serious show them that your intent is truly to learn and want to be part of a program that will teach them that you spend that time building those relationships. Generally they will grow. And the people who are brave like that, who will reach out to someone and be like, Hey, I’d really love to come ride with you. People who are genuine about those things, those girls will remember you. Oh, for sure. Yeah, exactly. And like what you said about showing up and even after you get the job, like where you get the intern, like don’t like, just give it your all, because like you said, like those things don’t go unnoticed. And that’s what I learned a lot is when I was it. And I like,

I try and show up as my best self and optimistic, eager, and just kind of be like, yes, I’ll do that. Yep. Yep. Okay. What’s next? Like, you know, hustle kind of thing. Like get going and just being ahead of the laws and that’s important with the horse industry. Like that’s what trainers want is they don’t want someone that takes initiative because they see something, they see an empty water bucket and they’re on it. They see something and they’re just like, okay, like we’re here. We’re part of the program. Like you said, and you do have to adapt pretty easily to someone else’s program, which like, there is that window of, you know, the transition of learning the horses, learning how to do stuff. But at once you have it down, it’s up to you to kind of maintain that and just really show yourself like the best self. And that’s when you know that connection might introduce you to someone else and it just snowballs. And before you know it, you have a network of amazing people.

Yeah. And that network is what will get you everywhere. You need to go. And it’s very true. You have to have the initiative for these kinds of deals. The internships are hard. Like I said, they’re hard on you mentally. They’re hard on you physically. Sometimes you have to learn not to take things personally to be mentally strong because even if they love you, there’s probably still going to be gays here. And there were things maybe don’t go fire, right? And you just have to be prepared to be your best every single day that you have to be a self starter. If you’re willing to go into that deal. And someone has to, you know, wait on you hand and foot. And someone has to tell you what to do every second of the day, the internship deals, probably not for you to be motivated. Self-starting you have to, like you said, be able to think ahead and be prepared for all situations and be on top of stuff. Because you know, when there’s 10, 15, 20 head of horses in the barn, there’s no time for errors and there’s really no room for mistakes. You know, horses that belong to people that were supposed to be caring for intense, intense, but at the end of the day, very, very rewarding. So it was for networking.

So worth it. And that’s the one thing as well, like the whole taking things personally and feeling, you know, like it is a mental obstacle to intern because you know, like you’re here. And then all of a sudden you intern, you’re like bottom of the totem pole. Like that’s what interns are known for across the board. Like in any business or any, any thing, interns are the bottom and you are putting yourself willingly in that position. So you kind of have to remember that, like I’m not here to be the top trainer right now. Like I’m learning from them. So yeah, I am at the bottom and just accepting life. Isn’t going to be rainbows and butterflies for a while, you know? And that’s part of the deal. Like you’re signing literally signing up for that. But at the same time, I’d like to say for anyone listening, that they’re interested in it or they’re doing it.

And like you said, at the beginning, which I can totally relate to is just knowing your worth still. And to be treated respectfully, no matter what, like, yeah, there might be hard days, but there’s still like, you’re still a human. And if you’re treated in dehumanize in your experience, that’s not okay. And it’s not. So like just knowing, knowing your own worth and your value, like you’re here to learn from people, but at the same time, like it can be a tough situation. And if you feel completely undervalued, it’s effecting your mental health a lot. And if you don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel from it, then maybe it is time it’s okay to move on and maybe try somewhere else.

Yes. I think it’s almost an unspoken thing in the horse industry. Just how draining internship deals can be sometimes. Cause I sure we have all heard there’s horror stories about how people get treated, you know? Um, I’ve been really fortunate. I’ve been really fortunate to always be treated, you know, pretty darn well. And um, but yes, like there’s absolutely no reason to stay somewhere that is unhealthy for your mental wellbeing or otherwise. Um, there are so many other opportunities out there, even if you think, even if you think where you’re at is where you need to be to learn the most, you know, don’t ever be afraid to leave and go to the next thing because it’s definitely not worth, you know, stressing over being heartbroken over because there are certain people you’re never, ever going to be able to make happy no matter what you do. Um, and that’s it life in general, I think you don’t have to, you don’t have to let it consume you. You can go on to the next thing for sure. Like you said,

Yeah, know your worth and if it’s not what you thinking are not there and you give it the time it deserves, but if it’s still is not changing, then yeah, just it’s okay to change and it might be scary and the unknown might not, might be scary, but it’s like relationships and all that. Like, is it better to be with something that, and how unhealthy or something different, right. Different is scary, but it’s just like, it is. I find interning. It changes a lot of your perspective just in life in general. So with that being said is why I think they’re amazing. And like, I salute you for sticking with it and staying with it for a really long time. And it’s been years that you’ve been doing it. So I just think that already in itself is like such an accomplishment. And just really like, it’s putting you down the path that you ultimately want to go down. So I gave you credit for that. Like it’s quite an accomplishment and yeah, people actually like have questions and stuff. I’m sure you’re happy to answer them.

Oh yeah. You know, it’s funny that you say that like Janet and I had a conversation last night, coming home from the jackpot, which was, I have to throw, I have to throw a plug for Janet. We were so excited. Her four year old, the one I ran for Smith, he won the jackpot last night. I saw that. I feel like he’s my little baby and he’s just being so good anyways. But you know, you mentioned this earlier, too. She went back to, you know, Sarah. Um, I was like, Janet, thank you so much for letting me enjoy him and ride him. You know? Like you don’t, you didn’t have to thank you for believing in me. And she’s like, well, she’s like, of course she said, you know, I told you, you she’s like, I knew you already knew it all. You just needed a chance to shine and look now you’ve gotten it.

I’m like, I know, but I didn’t want you to get hurt for it to happen. And she’s like, Oh Sarah. She’s like, everything happens for a reason. Satan is a phenomenal human being. And I’m very, very lucky to have her as a friend and mentor. Very, very blessed. But yes, hit me up on Facebook, Instagram country, all which the story behind that is it’s a mix of two marriage names that are no longer with me today. So I’ve just always a Marshall and country bullion or at control on, on Facebook, you know, message me or wherever, trying to think of that’s all. But I’ll like add all your details in the show notes. So when people look they’ll have like a quick link, if they have any questions or anything, they would ask you and follow your journey because it is quite remarkable. So I just want to say thanks again for joining me and talking about this. Cause it was a good one. I feel like we got lots out there that needs to be shared. So I thank you so much for doing this and accepting and thank you so much for letting me get on here and talk. And it’s so exciting, you know, to be on a podcast I’ve never been on one before and been great so far. And I know a lot of people are enjoying it. So I hope that everyone will get something valuable out of this to help them. Thanks again. Awesome things, lady.

And thank you all loyal listeners to our listening to another episode of this week’s podcast with another amazing barrel racer. If you enjoy this episode, as much as I did, please, I would appreciate it if you can subscribe to the podcast, subscribe to my channel and all social media to get more of this type of stuff. I would completely appreciate and love you forever, If you want to give me a rating on Apple podcast, it will go a long way and means so much to me. So you better do it. Just kidding, but for real, any ways, that’s all for now. We’ll talk next week. Bye guys.

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Alexis Weaver Interviewed Me About My Internship Experience

Alexis: So the first question is, what is your best tip for someone looking to do a internship?

Shelby: Oh boy, what a question.. there was so much I learnt and also so much I didn’t know going into it. My one piece of advice I would give to especially younger people is to be flexible with the work and always know your worth as a person. Internships are hard and you might feel efforts aren’t paying off, but try to see the positive in every situation and take advantage of the opportunity you have. 

You’re working with trainers, ask them a million questions, be curious but at the same time don’t devalue what you already know. Also one big thing is internships are known for being pretty rough and can leave some being treated poorly by their employers, remember just because they’re more successful right now doesn’t mean they’re on a high pedestal. 

We’re all human, understand it’s not normal to be treated unfairly just because you’re an intern. The work is tough but it can be one of the best, most educational experiences of your life. Oh, and network like crazy!

 Alexis: Wow! I totally get what you are saying! Now for question number two, What age would you say is the perfect age or ideal age to do a internship at?

 Shelby: I was 24 when I moved to the US to intern. I would say my maturity helped me a lot take advantage of the opportunity, and not not get taken advantage of. Like I said, interns are bottom of the totem pole and I had an instance where I had to put my foot down to unsafe, unsupervised work. If I was younger I might not be able to stand up for myself. I also was old enough to help in ways I wouldn’t have if I was younger. I think anything over 20 for a longer internship is ideal, you have a bit of life experience already to help you along the way through your internship journey. There’s ups and downs, at least I had ups and down during my trip and being an independent person before you go, I feel will help you through a lot better.

Alexis: And the last question is, What would you tell people to look for when searching for a good internship for their self?

 Shelby: Ask questions before you go! Figure out exactly the living and work situation. You want to be well prepared and know what you’re getting into before you dive head first and move there. What you though your plan was might not be what ends up happening, which is ok, always be flexible to change. Be professional! Show up as a positive ball of energy and prove yourself as an eager, driven, hard worker that you are.. that sort of stuff goes a long way.

Alexis: Thank you so much for taking a few minutes to chat with me, I really appreciate it!

 Shelby: You’re very welcome!

 

When People Aren’t Nice: What You Need To Know

This is about my intern stories since I’m celebrating! It’s been a full year since I was gone and came back.

Where I was pretty much one year ago, I was finishing up my time working for a trainer and it was the end of October,  I was going to head over to Ohio, meet my mom and from there, go to NBHA worlds in Georgia. We do that pretty much every year so it was good timing to go there for a race, then come home.

Within the last month, I definitely learned a lot.. It was probably the hardest month I think I had.

The one thing I took away from it would be the importance of when someone treats you a certain way, you can’t have that affect you personally. It’s really hard, but it’s just one of those things; it’s easy to feel bad for yourself when things just aren’t going right. Even more so, if there’s someone that is the cause of that and they’re acting a certain way, you need to remember this: you can’t really change how someone treats you. If they want to treat you terribly, they’re just not a nice person and there’s really nothing you can do about it.

The only thing you have control over, which is really important, is how you take it, how you handle it and how you move on.

For myself in the situation I was in, I felt pretty hopeless and well, I was helpless. I didn’t really have a lot of options on where to go so I was forced to just tough it out. yes, it was difficult but I just had to go day by day. I could have felt really bad for myself. Being stuck there with weird people who I busted my butt for, for practically nothing in return. I just had to take it for what it was.

 Just like the time my horse was stuck at a barrel race with no ride home. But, you learn. Some people aren’t the nicest in the world, and I mean, the horse industry is a totally different deal and you deal with so many different types of people. 

Some of them aren’t that nice and there’s really nothing we can do about it.

It’s just how people are. You just have to learn the lesson that they’re going to give you and move on, try to move past that the best of your ability and know that there’s nothing wrong with you! I repeat, nothing wrong with you. It doesn’t matter if you’re a top trainer or you’re just a stable person or you’re learning and you’re interning. It doesn’t change your level of humanity and it really shouldn’t. 

So if someone wants to treat you like a piece of garbage, that’s completely on them, and hopefully, you think “if it’s gonna make you happy to treat other people like that, then all the best. I hope you have a great life doing that and it’s very fulfilling for you.” But for yourself, you have to know that you can get through it, walk by and at the end, be a better person.

Thanks for reading! 

SOS. I Got Ditched at a Barrel Race

SOS. I Got Ditched at a Barrel Race

When I sit in my barn and do stalls, I always start thinking about things, as I’m shovelling away. One thing that I always go back to in my head is when I was interning. There are so many things that went on and I wish with some people that I could just have the last word and just say the last thing.

There were things that really bothered me and that were really tough; First of all, working for strangers and secondly, doing hard work in some conditions that weren’t ideal. The last little bit of my trip had conditions that weren’t the best. But I mean, when I think back to the last month, I learned the most. Maybe not necessarily about riding horses or training horses, which really bummed me out, but regardless.. life lessons here.

The one thing I realized is having people that offer you stuff is very valuable. I’m not the person to really ask for a lot of help and ask for people to do things that are going to inconvenience them, in order to help me. I’m just not like that and I feel uncomfortable doing it, so I just don’t usually.

I just take whatever someone’s going to give me or offer me, for what it is.

Example: When I was working and I didn’t have the proper equipment to handle, let’s say the temperature of the area I was in.

I was planning on staying in Oklahoma the whole time, so I brought all summer clothes. Then, I ended up going far North and I was there until the end of October.  I only had summer stuff and all of a sudden I’m working in the Northern States where it was going down to zero and I was not equipped for it. Also, I was running out of money. I couldn’t really just go buy new stuff when I knew I had my rubber boots and nice gloves and everything back waiting for me at home.

So I asked for some help. To me, if I had someone working for me that was from a different country, I would have totally just offered them anything they needed! If they need gloves or boots or coat, like 100% take whatever you need. But, that didn’t really happen for me and it was kind of shocking.

The one really good story; So this is where it gets good and this is pure story.

I went to a barrel race by myself and because I didn’t have a truck trailer, I got dropped off. It was about 25 minutes from where I was living and where my horse was at.

I made sure my draw later in the day so I had time to feed all the horses, do all the stalls, which took most of the day and then go into town where the show was, make sure my horse was all good, then go do my run! The one family that I knew were at the race as well.  So I asked them if they could take care of Marsh in the morning and make sure she was good and fed all day. So that was nice. Every morning, I didn’t have to go all the way there to just feed Marshmallow, then have to go all the way back to work, work all day and then go back to the race in the evening.

I was really just trusting them that they’re going to help me out and take care of her.

So Sunday rolls around and I didn’t ask the people I was working for to get picked up! They were home already I found out. Then, Sunday evening rolls around. I messaged him, “Hey, so the shows almost over, are you planning on picking up my horse?” I don’t know exactly what I said. I made it sound nicer than that, but I was really expecting him to offer to say, “Oh, when’s your show done? I can come and get your horse” considering I was working for them and they’re the ones that dropped me off in the first place.

And he didn’t offer at all.

So I started panicking because I’m in a different freakin’ country, I don’t really know many people and now all of a sudden I’m supposed to figure out who I can ask to take my horse back. So I messaged the people’s dad that lived on their property as well. I messaged him, seeing if he knew someone that I could take me home.  The dad said “well can’t you leave her there for the night?” I’m thinking, ya no, probably not. I’m not gonna leave her there, the show’s over! I’m not going to leave one horse in an abandoned barn, obviously!! 

I did find someone but it was the dad that connected me. It was an older lady that has 1 horse and a 3 horse trailer, she was going the same direction and was able to take my horse.

I was very, very thankful for her and I said, thank you a lot! But, the next day it still wasn’t enough. I got talked to about it, “well did you pay her?” he asked me. The look on my face was probably deer in headlights  like, “no, that didn’t even cross my mind.” She drove 20 minutes the same direction she had to go anyways. And also, I seriously do not have money to offer!

It’s kind of ironic. There was another thing that went on about me being their responsibility. “So if I’m your responsibility, why didn’t you pay her? Why are you getting mad at me thinking that I should have done it when you’re in that dropped me off at this show? Didn’t pick me up and got mad because I wasn’t thankful enough and didn’t give the girl money to drive me.” This is what I wish I said.

However, it did work out in the end. But that was a big shocker to the reality of what some people are like.

So with that, I think maybe I should put myself out there more and not just assume people are going to be nice people, because they’re not.  So, I learned something. It wasn’t about barrel racing but hey, it was about people and some people are just not who you want to be around. If someone doesn’t offer to do something for you, then maybe you don’t want to be around them anyway. That’s kinda what I think. If someone can’t offer something nice and just do it at decency, maybe you need to reevaluate that person.

So that’s what I learned and that’s my story. Hopefully, you can take something from it as well.

Internship With Barrel Horse Trainers: Be On Time

Internship With Barrel Horse Trainers: Be On Time

My internship experience! This story is brought to you by the end of my trip, October 2018.

I was living with a family in Wyoming for most of my time when I was in the States and it was awesome. They let me ride a really cool horse but, the only thing that I realized after once I was there, the purpose of me going on this trip was to learn from trainers and try to learn how I could be better. So that whole concept ended up leaving. I was with this family and I was just riding with them, but I wasn’t working alongside any trainers like I wanted.

So, when I was at the fizz bomb, I met a couple and I took the opportunity to go to South Dakota for 1 month. Within that month, I was doing more of the basic work that it takes to own a horse facility and have it running well. Anyone knows if you have a horse, what kind of work is involved. But with this, it was a little different and it was a challenge!

I felt like it really tested me and tested who I am as a person, a worker and a horse lover.

I was living in a cabin just down the street from where I was working. The trainers set it up for me where they rented the cabin. It was a little weekender cabin that people would rent out as an Airbnb for the weekend. I lived there by myself and then I would drive a little side by side, like a ranger side by side to the barn; to their place. Every day I did that and I had to be there at seven 30 to start feeding. It wasn’t there at 7:30, it was the first horse was eating at 7:30.

 

The thing is, it is their own place, you have to understand that they’re really particular about how they want things done, which I respect. But my punctuality skills are not at par like they’re pretty bad. So the one day I think I got there a little bit after 7:30, maybe 7:33. I didn’t think even anyone was there that saw me, but I was definitely told later that I was late and so I was like, “okay, you’re right. I’m sorry. It won’t happen.” I’m thinking, it was a couple of minutes but I mean if they are strict on when the horses start eating, I need to respect that and get my butt out to bed earlier and make sure I am there.

Well, shortly after that I ended up being a few minutes late again. I was rushing to try to make it!

I thought because I was really close to their place, that I didn’t need a lot of time to get to work because I was literally down the street. But by the time I got on a side by side, drove down this street, went into the gates of their place, parked the thing, go to the hay bale and all that. It took at least five minutes. But it took me a while to really realize I needed that much time. I just like to give myself unnecessary anxiety by rushing and almost be late.

On one particular day, I ended up being late and I got scolded pretty good for it. I was so shocked because I was 1 minute late and I got bitched at for it. After that happened I was stunned and didn’t even realize what had happened.  Later on in the day, when none of them would talk to me, he ended up coming up to me and apologizing for how he acted, but not what he said.

I honestly, I thought about it and I was just thinking “you know what, like this guy has a point.”

My lesson that I learned was:

At the time your boss is going to get mad at you for something, but before you get in a huff,  if you actually think about it, they’re not saying anything else, they’re just saying that ONE point. In my case, his point was right. I was thinking to myself “honestly I am really bad at punctuality. If I’m going to be honest with myself, I’m not good at it and I don’t have good time management skills.” He totally called me out on it! It wasn’t the nicest way, but he still called me out and I had to take it for what it was and maybe learn from it.

I can tell you what, I was never late again.

I made sure that I was up! I gave myself at least five minutes to get over there and to get at the bale. I was at least early or on time and that’s what he wanted. So I just needed a bit of like that tough love I guess, or the discipline to actually be like, you know what, like I can show up on time, like don’t be lazy. And that was just one of the lessons I learned.

Looking back when I’ve had a boss get really mad at me and it’s so easy to get mad back and feel hard done by, but they’re just saying one point.

They’re not saying you’re a terrible worker. He just said, “show up on time, don’t be late” (in a not so nice way). He wasn’t saying I didn’t work hard or anything, it was just the one point and I had to take that.  You got to take it for what it is and there might’ve made a mistake with the delivery, but at the same time he had a point and I had to accept it.

When you have someone tell you what’s what, you have to think about if you’re actually in the wrong or not, and if you were in the wrong, accept it and move forward and just take it as a lesson learned.

That was one of the lessons I learned while interning among many others. But stay tuned for those ones. If you have any questions about it, let me know.

Uh, yeah, there, there’s my story.

Internship Post – Working For Your Idols.

Internship Post – Working For Your Idols.

If you have a dream of becoming a professional anything, you need to learn from the best and if that’s what you’re after, I salute you. I think hardships and hard work are absolutely necessary to make it to the top in any sport or profession. Thus the reason for interning, it’s the best way possible to gain that experience.
Im sure different types of internships come with their own unique set of challenges but I’m gonna talk about my experience, working for barrel racing/horse trainers.
When you have any sort of employment, there are times you are working for them, which to mean measn working on your own tasks. Then on the flip side, you can work WITH someone. As an internship situation, working with them is what you’re after. It is only a small word, but it totally changes that statement. In case you’ve missed it, interning with someone is a lot better than working for them.
I have interned at a few different places in the span of four months. It is quite a lot of moving around but some of these internships weren’t very long. However, I still learned a lot during my time working for every each professional.

How to Get Started

Just a heads up, most of these positions you need to travel. When relocated and put in a very vulnerable position, you give up a lot of your independence. You are there to work and do what your boss says, no question. From the first placement, it felt like I was just dropped off on a farm and unable to choose anything. You don’t choose your hours or your work, where you sleep, or even when to eat for that matter. All you think you can say is “yes and I’ll do it.”

The Work

I’m assuming most of you are horse people and you already know what it takes to own a horse, take care of a horse, ride a horse etc.  You know it’s not easy to schedule a play by play of what you’re doing, how long it’ll take, when you’ll be done and you know you’re done when the job is done. As for me, I totally get that! I spend my summer nights after my 9-5 job in the barn riding, washing, mucking and just making sure my horses stay alive for another day and I don’t mind it at all. However, in that sense, I am working with myself (which is glorious). When you begin interning, in my experience you start working for someone and it changes that willingness to be doing what you love because you love it. Keep that in mind and never let someone make you hate something you love.

So with that being said, proceed with caution. I have heard many horror stories from other women that have gone through some pretty dehumanizing shit while working for people. Interns have always been the bottom of the totem pole and there’s no changing that. Just accept its where you’re at and move along your journey with you’re head held high. Like I said before, sometimes working your butt off is necessary to grow.

Through all the shit that you’re probably going to have to shovel, all the saddles you’re gonna have to throw, all the horses you’re going to warm up, hose off and walk around, you WILL be learning. You don’t know what it is right away but put in that position, you definitely will. Then you can look back on this and be like “oh ya, now I know what that weirdo online was talking about”.

Learning is a great thing to strive to do daily and there are so many forms of it.  Through my experience, other then the actial training horses part, i learnt the things I dont like and you know what girl? You take that and you can still apply it your life.

I said that so much while I was away, “hey I don’t like this person, I’m never going to act like that guy”. We all have said that! There’s always another side though. The flip side is you might learn things that you like and you want to do! You have the ability to take that knowledge and apply it to any aspect of your life. Yay for life experience.

For me, I honestly think I learn just as much about people and living somewhere foreign then I did about my actual riding skills. Which is totally ok.
I think to begin that journey of self-improvement by internship will be very beneficial , but you need to start with an open mind. You have no clue what these professionals are like; you know, in real life. And unfortunately for you, the only way you figure it out is when you 100% commit to work for them and move to their place!

They at least give you a warning by saying in their job description “need to have the ability to go with the flow” and they’re not joking. If that is a skill that you don’t think you have, being able to take things as they come is going to help you in your riding and just in life; so it’s something you should work on.

A few tips that I could give to you through my own internship experience

If you don’t want to feel totally stuck, like who really does? Take a vehicle with you! Reason being, I flew to Oklahoma at first, clearly didn’t have my own vehicle and it was really hard to adjust. All of a sudden your needs that you could easily go into town or take care of on your own are gone. You now have to rely on other people that you just met and unless they’re amazing, chances are your needs don’t get met the same way.

Another thing I learned early on is it OK to say no. Right off the bat, I was asked to do something with a horse that I wasn’t super comfortable with. The horse was hardly halter broke and I was supposed to start working with it without anyone else around. That was not part of our agreement and I was just plain worried for my safety. I said, “uhm, this seems dangerous to do alone, the horse wasy crazy so I’ll wait for you to show me.” 

I wasn’t actually rude about it but still, I said no.
It would’ve been different if that whole “working with or working for” someone came into play. I wouldn’t have had a problem if I was working alongside Ms.Bosslady and learning from their professional expertise. That was not the case and I said I’m not doing that. To me, it wasn’t safe and wasn’t worth me getting hurt and doing it all for no pay. Ya, I don’t think so.

As I just said, very few places will actually pay you! The agreement is for you to be housed for free, learn and be taken care of in exchange to work. For some weird reason, food was a big problem! My first month I swear I ate as much as I would in a week. I understand when you’re working you don’t just stop to eat, but at times the Hanger was real and it was a real problem. 

So if you have a car, problem solved. Go into town, buy yourself simple food that you would probably bring to a horse show weekend and snack on that when you can. And I only speak from my experience. I did not have a car, therefore, I could not provide the food I needed and wanted that would be easy to ease the hanger.

Pack Accordingly

Due to the events of moving around the country a little; and by a little I mean Oklahoma up to Wyoming. Very South to very North and there is a big weather difference. And me, living out of a suitcase thinking I was going to be in the hottest state possible all summer, I only brought summer clothes..like a romper? which was evidence I was way too optimistic about my trip. Needless to say, the romper did not make it home with me. When you’re not getting paid, which is fine and all, you just cannot deny you still will have expenses. Having to buy warm clothes or season appropriate clothing should not be one of them. So Take it from me, pack for all weather but if you have to, a thrift store is your best friend and will have perfect barn clothes you can destroy.

Last but not least

Take advantage of this incredible opportunity! Interning is usually only a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, so fricken embrace it. This is your chance to meet like-minded people and learn about the culture of the sport. Again, this is only from my experience. I came from Canada and move to the USA. It is a whole different world! Through it all, I stayed focused and tried to stay positive by taking it all for what it was and not letting certain situations get me down.

Going into an internship was a blind move and you can only try to plan what’s going to happen, but chances are you’re wrong (sorry).  Your greatest tool will be your ability go with the flow and keep an mind open! Learn as much as you can by the people around you and walk away from it a more well-rounded person. 

It will probably suck at times but power through, I promise it will be worth it.
Have as much fun as you can and I wish you absolutely all the best in your adventures.

Meeting Your Idols, The Cold Hard Truth

Starting this off with the overlooked facts; professional athletes are not valued based on their level of humanity. They’re literally ranked based on their skill and resume in the sport.  Sure these people are talented in whatever it is they specialize in. It’s easy to look up to them, fantasize about meeting them and hoping their talents will rub off on you. However, in my non-professional opinion, these people can be dangerous to put on a pedestal.

Of course, it’s great to have an icon you want to be like one day but you have to realize that people can be a professional athlete, have millions of followers, look like a great person but that doesn’t mean they are.

You can ask “what do I know?” I only have my own experience to base this off of but I have been lucky enough to have worked with some of those pros. Unfortunately what I stated above seemed to be pretty accurate.

The nobodys, That’s right I’ll call myself a nobody(for now) has it rough, what do you do when you’re an underdog that can’t offer much to someone so much more successful than you.  I remind myself that everyone is a nobody until they become a somebody, right? And I think we all, even the pros need to remember that everyone started from the beginning. If someone isn’t as good or can’t offer anything right now, that it’s certain we all, including the best, have been at that point too.

Respected athletes take notes – Just because someone isn’t as skilled or knowledgeable now doesn’t make them any less of a person that you’re magically allowed to treat any less. If these people actually look up to you, give them something to really idolize! These “nobodys” are working on learning and gaining experience to help them become like you and they are looking at you for motivation!

This hit me hard while I was working for some of these athletes so please, just know your worth! I have heard stories of young nobodys getting taken advantage of due to their ability to idolize these people so much that they would do anything asked. This is a dangerous area and can leave you seriously taken advantage of! I’m more specifically talking about internships.

Interners are the people that are inexperienced, optimistic, and real glass half full type. They are willing to work, usually for free with some of the best in the industry. These jobs are a great way to gain knowledge and experience. You get to work alongside these guys and see what really happens in their day to day lives to get them where they are today. So why not go out there and learn? It’s a great opportunity no doubt, but you don’t really know these people and it can be quite alarming what you discover.

So here is what I learnt, Doing tough hours and hard work is obviously necessary in order to become a high-level athlete. There are no cutting corners in that department but always keep the goal in mind. Don’t say yes to terrible work if you don’t think it’s beneficial or progressing you towards your goals.  Remember what brought you there and if what you’re doing isn’t a step toward the goal then change it.

The Advice: If you’re interning and there’s something you’re not comfortable with, or you’re being asked way more then what was agreed upon, its ok to say no. I repeat, it is OK to just say no! Your happiness should be important and if what you’re doing is ruining the sport for you stop.

Remember you are just as capable as the pros, were all humans and you can make it to that level of greatness by starting and always learning. No doubt you will get there one day if you really push yourself and strive to learn every day.

Thanks for reading, I wish you all the best in your future endeavours.

Why I Moved to The USA for a Summer

Why I Moved to The USA for a Summer

Growing up brings so many hard questions society asks us. Ultimately, what are we going to do with our life? Who honestly knows.. cause well, I’d actually really like to figure it out! My mom told me to get done school so I could “start my life” sorry mom to call you out on this, but I have been starting my life. My life has begun! 24 years ago to be exact and guess what happened? I did the normal college thing and I finished..Barely. I was not excited about my program and it showed. The people and experiences were great. The education, on the other hand, I didn’t grasp because the interest and passion were just not there. So I got all my credits, again barely and left school to get ma life all started up like I was told to do.

I was probably only told that once but it just resonated with me because I totally disagreed with that statement said to me many months ago. Anyways, I go home pretty well student broke as could be and start working at a family run business, ah I can finally put my education to work! Well, I believe it was 6 months later, I’m here learning how the operation goes and my role in the grand scheme of things. I think constantly, “is this what I’m going to do for the rest of my life? Is this what I would have chosen for a career if it wasn’t exposed to me throughout my whole life? Would I decide on this type of work any other way?” The answer was no. I have a “now or never” mentality to take action and though those 6 months, I decided now!

I’m sure some of you have been lucky to get an opportunity like mine and it be a field you truly are passionate about. Me, however, couldn’t imagine this being the end of my career journey. I felt no personal growth in those 6 months. I want to feel challenged and feel I am exposing myself to the unfamiliar in exchange to grow as a person of this planet.

I knew what my deepest passion was and I researched it, thinking of ideas; next steps for me to dip my toes into it. Of course, the focus was on horses, specifically becoming a better horsewoman and barrel racer. So naturally I abruptly, in a matter of 2 weeks got on an airplane to Oklahoma with no date of return. Just a gentle test of the waters, you know, nice and casual. Since I chose now, now I can say I have no regrets. However, during my time in the USA I thought I had some real ones. I moved around quite a bit and for some Canadian barrel racer dragging her poor 4-year-old futurity horse wherever she goes; we got through it pretty well. Throughout the early stages and several wake up calls. I managed to travel to 4 states and I was feeling very unsure of my choices.

Looking back I can’t say I regret anything, even if I felt it temporarily. I have met some freaking incredible people, (if you like to hear about someone’s story on meeting people to encourage you to do it even though it freaks you out a little, I agree! But I will talk about that later on here) every place has brought a little more light to my life journey and for that, the regrets are done to a low zero!

So, what do I want to do as this trip dwindles down to the last few weeks? I definitely have been reflecting a lot on this crazy thing I did and I’ve been stopping for a few moments to take it all in. I know my time is almost done and I noticed today as I stopped and looked at it all. Looking at where I  was, what I was doing. The beautiful black hills of South Dakota all around me and know soon enough this whole experience is about to be in the past.

It freaks me out knowing inevitably, all things come to an end. Everything does it and I bet you can’t think of one thing that won’t eventually come to an end in your life. The time flies and it’s such a short amount we are allowed to live through it all. We don’t even know how much time we get to waste here; it’s scary! Embrace all of life’s mess and questionable regrets as we go through this journey. Because it has started, officially!